Have you ever wished you could be someone else? I have.
The truth is, the majority of people have wished they could be a different person at some point in their lives.
But it doesn’t have to be that way. And it’s not for me anymore.
Hi, my name is Christine. I have spent a great deal of my life not liking things about myself, including my body.
In social situations, I would always assess the things I said all night and find all these different times when I should have said something different.
Every time I would get dressed, I just knew that people would look at me and think “She should not be wearing that!”
In my mind, my hair never looked right, my opinions were never valid enough, my house was never clean enough, and my body needed fixing all the time.
But now, all of that has changed for me.
I finally figured it out. I figured out how to feel good about yourself.
I was really tired of always working on myself but never feeling good and accepting of who I was.
So, I decided I was going to change the way I thought of myself.
I started reading books and blogs and started talking to friends of mine who seemed to feel more positively about themselves.
What I found was pretty amazing.
I have the power to start feeling good about myself, I just needed to make some changes in my thinking. It’s been such a rewarding discovery finding out that the choice is all mine.
I want you to feel as good about yourself as I’ve learned to feel about me.
So, I’ve compiled a list of things that I believe will help you the most with how to feel good about yourself and your body.
It’s like sharing a secret to success.
Happier people tend to be more successful in everything that they do. So, I really hope this helps you with your journey to be a happier you.
Learn to Trust Yourself
The most important part of figuring out how to feel good about yourself is to learn how to trust yourself.
If you don’t trust that what you’re doing or what your saying is based on a good belief system and good decisions, then it will be very hard to feel good about who you are. Give yourself credit.
Know that you know what to do and how to do it. And if you don’t know how to do it, know that you know how to figure out how to do it.
Trust that you are smart and capable of making good decisions for yourself.
Tap into Your Strengths
People will say to know your limitations and that is important. But everyone has different strengths too.
It’s a great idea to celebrate your strengths by putting them to good use.
If you know something that could help someone else, then don’t be afraid to share it. Also, know that you have the strength to get through anything.
You can deal with whatever comes your way.
There are always going to be bad things that happen in your life, but it’s important to remember that you will get through whatever it is you’re having to deal with.
And in most cases, you have already been through something worse and survived.
Don’t Succumb to Your Fears
Fears are part of life. The fact that you have things you fear isn’t an issue. It’s healthy to have some fears.
What matters is how you deal with your fears.
If you live with your fears by always avoiding the situations that inspire fear in you, then you’re not being your best self. You may even be making your fears worse.
If you never confront the things that cause you to feel fear, then you can never overcome them. You shouldn’t always avoid uncomfortable situations.
Being uncomfortable can lead to growth. And overcoming fear will make you feel very accomplished and proud of yourself.
Always Press On
Sometimes things happen in your life that aren’t fun or pleasant.
We consider them bad things.
It can be easy to get all caught up in bad things and just want to stop and dwell in the negativity. Don’t do that.
Keep going and get yourself to the other side of the bad stuff.
Understand that bad things, even though they’re tough, are usually temporary.
You need to dig deep and find whatever positive energy you can within yourself and channel that into something good.
Don’t wallow in the negative. Press on with positivity.
Try to Find Perspective in Life
It’s not always easy but keeping things in perspective can definitely help you view yourself in a more positive light.
Understand that the world is not out to get you.
You are not a victim. And you are not just a passenger in your life. You are the driver.
Things don’t just happen to you, you have a say-so in what happens to you.
Some situations in your life won’t be exactly what you would like but remember that you have choices and that somewhere someone else is going through something even worse.
Most things are not the proverbial “end of the world” so don’t lapse into that kind of mindset.
And if you need help finding it, talk to others around you because usually, you’ll find someone going through something similar or that has in the past.
Understand Disappointment and Use It to Your Advantage
Disappointment is just a part of life too.
If every time you get disappointed in your life you just give up, then you’ll never accomplish anything.
Disappointments come in all shapes and sizes. Some are as big as not getting the job you had wanted so badly.
Others are as small as stepping on the scale and not having lost as much weight as you’d wanted.
It doesn’t matter what it is. How you handle the disappointment is the part that matters.
The most successful people in the world didn’t get there without disappointments along the way.
They used their disappointments to fuel them in moving on and making themselves better.
Control Your Thoughts
Your thoughts are very powerful in regard to how you view yourself.
We think at a much faster rate than what we talk at.
If all of your thoughts are negative, regardless of what you say out loud, then you are hearing negativity about yourself much more than you are positivity.
You need to train yourself to dismiss negative thoughts that roll around in your head.
It might not be easy, but it can be done.
Even if you have to do something symbolic to finally get some negative thought out of your head for good, then do it.
Write it down and then burn the piece of paper or bury it in the ground somewhere.
Whatever it takes to get rid of it. It will be worth it.
Then just stay open to all the positive thoughts you can that will take the place of the negative ones you let go of.
Go After What You Want But Don’t Want for Too Much
We all want things.
We have goals we set for many kinds of things. It’s a healthy thing to do.
But it can cost you in some cases, if you want too much.
If you’re never happy with what you have accomplished because you’ve set your sights too far away, then you are missing the opportunity to feel good about yourself.
It’s ok and very beneficial to seek out what you want, but not at all costs.
If the costs outweigh the benefit, then you won’t find yourself feeling very good about you.
Don’t Be Easily Disturbed
People say things sometimes that end up hurting your feelings or making you feel bad in some way.
You can be insulted by them, or you can let them roll off your back.
When something gets said that rubs you the wrong way, don’t just get your feelings hurt or get mad about it.
Think about it for a minute.
Consider the source of the insult. Most likely that person is dealing with their own inner demons.
Learn how to respond to people who say thoughtless or ignorant things instead of just reacting to them.
You’ll feel better about yourself afterward.
What it all comes down to is this. You have to learn to love yourself.
And you have to understand that your life is yours.
It’s not something that is already written out with things that are going to just happen to you.
You have choices to make that help shape the path that you’re on.
If you don’t like the path you’re on, then choose to find a different one. If something is hurting you and the way you look at yourself, then stop doing it.
Now that you know how to feel good about yourself, go out there and do it!
I hope you have found this post to be helpful.
I think when we share what we know with each other, we all benefit.
So, please share these so others can feel better too.
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